11 Aug Shonda Reveals Why She Had to Kill Derek
JUAN SAYS: Months have passed and we still can’t get over the fact that Derek Shepherd is DEAD. Our hearts went out to Meredith and as the closing credits of Greys Anatomy played, we couldn’t help but wonder what’s gonna happen next.
The truth is, we too got hurt, feeling the feels of losing a loved one is never easy, and seeing it on TV is not exactly a treat. It keeps you hanging and makes you question life in general. Why is it that life is so much of a kontrabida? Just when everything is going great, just when you are living in some sort of a semi-fairy tale, life throws you a curve ball and everything you stood for, believed in and held on as your truisms are shattered into bits and pieces and you, even you are too scared to pick up. Why does life have to be so cruel?
We wanted to get into the head of Grey’s Anatomy creator Shonda Rhimes and answer for ourselves the question that has left us hanging since the last time we watched the series: “what the fu** was she thinking?” Just like Pinoy telenovelas, is Shonda Rhimes hashtagging #WalangForever. How negative can writers get nowadays?! Sure we are in it for reality. Admittedly though, watching these familiar series on TV is a form of escape from our so-called love less lives. Pero doon ka na nga lang nakakahanap ng forever dahil hindi pa naguumpisa ang forever mo, pinatay naman ng writer ang trip mo! Medyo bad trip ha. Bad trip siya ng slight!
In an article at MTV.com, (Read full story here), Shonda revealed her thoughts on why she had to kill Derek in the last season.
“The decision to have Derek die the way that he did was not a difficult one in the sense of what were the options? Either Derek was going to walk out on Meredith and leave her high and dry and what was that going to mean? That the love was not true, the thing we’d said for 11 years was a lie, for me was untenable,” Rhimes told the crowd. “Meredith and Derek’s love had to remain Meredith and Derek’s love. So as painful as it was for me as a storyteller … the only way to preserve what felt true for me was for Derek to have to die.”
While we respect Shonda for bringing Greys Anatomy to what it is now, our hearts sank even more with her revelation. Many find perfect sense in what she did, and maybe some justified Derek’s dying for this very reason, but to us (hopeless romantics and still hanging on to the goddam fairytale), it is not the case. The reality of death is inevitable, and even untimely deaths are part of the game of life. But we would like to believe that twisting the plot to “Derek leaving Meredith” is not the only way that this story could end. Sure we all wanted something real, but isn’t it that fighting for your marriage again and again; falling out of love on marriage and fighting for it because it is your commitment is a stark reality too? Have we become so engrossed with our selves that we fail to realize (and preach) that SEPARATION IS NOT AN OPTION?
We do understand the realities of life, and we do understand that part of this so called reality is the fact that a lot of marriages end up in divorce, but is this the only way to go? Can’t we really make a good and true to life reality that no matter what, no matter if you feel that you are or you have fallen out of love for the man or woman you are married to, you stick by your commitment because you honor what you bargained for? Can’t we be more realistic than that?
Let’s say, Meredith juggling her career and motherhood has neglected Derek. Derek on the other hand finds solace in another woman, but he fights his “feelings” admits it to Meredith. But he sticks to his commitments and tries his darndest best to work it out with his wife. This makes Derek human and at the same time gives hope to Grey’s Anatomy’s many viewers that no matter how flawed men are, they are not exactly ASSHOLES as what we deem them to be. What if Derek loses his job and Meredith is there to encourage him? What if one of them is cancer stricken and the other takes care of the partner? These are realities of life too. And it further shows what marriage and love are all about. And we are clamoring for more realistic yet more value-centric approach to scripts of TV series. Because for many, it doesn’t get any more real than that.