07 May Why We Think Dad Bods are Full of Shit
Our facebook timelines have been filled with articles upon articles of dad bods and how girls love them. We found girls to like the idea of having the “ideal guy” with a gut and saying that finally, girls are getting out of their shallow selves. While we too rejoice that girls are seeing things in a different light, we couldn’t help but cringe at the thought that we are saying that IT IS OKAY to ditch the gym for binge eating on 8 slices of pizza and downing at least half a case of beer in one sitting. Truth be told, to some girls (and guys too I’m sure) eating this way is NOT at all GOOD.
I personally have never dated anyone who is fat, even though I myself am on the heavy side of things. I like teddy bears too, fat and fuzzy ones. But I’d like to keep that in my stuffed toys and not on the guys I’d be holding on to for the rest of my life.
It is not to say that I hate fat people, how can I? When I myself am fat. But the weight issue and the struggle to address it, is so true, not for aesthetic reasons, but more for health reasons. I have brought myself to the gym, dance studio and pole studio just to achieve that strong and healthy body. The sexy aesthetic is just, in our vocabulary, a bi-product of being healthy. Proudly, after much pounds have been shed off, I can now walk up 4 flights of stairs without panting like a wild animal. How can someone who doesn’t care about exercise keep up with that?
With more than 400,000 shares of the original story on the dad bods, we would like to believe that this world is going mad. Healthy will always be in, unhealthy life practices will always be out. We have found the original article of the dad bods hoping that this would shed some light, and that we would be willing converts to the craze. Sadly, I still think this is full of shit. Here’s why:
Dad Bod’s argument: It doesn’t intimidate us. Few things are worse than taking a picture in a bathing suit, one being taking a picture in a bathing suit with a guy who is crazy fit. We don’t want a guy that makes us feel insecure about our body. We are insecure enough as it is. We don’t need a perfectly sculpted guy standing next to us to make us feel worse.
SISA SAYS: We are not saying that we need the whole six pack thing, but we wouldn’t mind if he had one. We don’t even require him to have bulging biceps and have that habit of wearing sandos whenever we are out just to show off his uhhh well-sculpted body. Ayaw ko naman ng mukhang palaka!
But having a fat guy beside us to rid us of our insecurities with our own body is actually missing the point. No matter how gorgeous or how loser looking one guy is, it would never make us feel better or worse. Our perception of ourselves is our own thing and not because of who other people are or how they look like.
I am a fat girl myself, and I pole. I stand beside girls who have abs all the time, and during the first weeks of my pole dancing sessions I refused to remove my top because, you guessed it right, I had a tummy, a big one at that. And then I fell from the pole.
Imagine the courage it took for me to have my photographs taken with fitter girls in almost nothing but underwear? But I got by. I fought my insecurities and just stood there. And boy was that a great feeling. Finally, I have decided to embrace myself, to continue what I do not exactly to remove the tummy (could’ve had a second round liposuction to fast track the solution), but to be stronger and healthier. Let no person, man or woman tell you how you should feel about your body. That is yours whether you like it or not. And what you do with it, take care of it or abuse it, is your responsibility.
Don’t pass on your insecurities to other people. Whatever they do, however they look, they will never make you love yourself more, if you don’t love yourself to begin with.
Dad Bod’s argument: We like being the pretty one. We love people saying “they look cute together.” But we still like being the center of attention. We want to look skinny and the bigger the guy, the smaller we feel and the better we look next to you in a picture.
SISA SAYS: You are pretty if you are pretty. How beautiful you are will never be dependent on how ugly your partner is. I’d rather be seen as the other half, rather than “the better half.” I don’t wish to be the reason why my “other half” is being put down, but I’d like to be the one who compliments him not just in how “cute we look together” but most importantly that our connection and chemistry is undeniable that people will instantaneously wonder where the other is when we are NOT together. Sorry, but this reason is really stupid.
Dad Bod’s argument: Better cuddling. No one wants to cuddle with a rock. Or Edward Cullen. The end.
SISA SAYS: Wrong. Cuddling isn’t about what you cuddle with, but WHO you cuddle with.
Dad Bods argument: Good eats. The dad bod says he doesn’t meal prep every Sunday night so if you want to go to Taco Tuesday or $4 pitcher Wednesday, he’d be totally down. He’s not scared of a cheat meal because he eats just about anything and everything.
SISA SAYS: on the contrary, pretty buffed guys can eat anything too, only in moderation. Who wants a guy that can eat 100 hotdogs? Yan lang ipapakain mo sa akin? Ang pesteng hotdog? Who needs a guy who can down 8 slices of pizza in one sitting? Tirahan mo naman ako, peste ka!
Dad Bods argument: You know what you’re getting. Girls tend to picture their future together with their guys early on. Therefore, if he already has the dad bod going on, we can get used to it before we date him, marry him, have three kids. We know what we are getting into when he’s got the same exact body type at the age of 22 that he’s going to have at 45.
SISA SAYS: If he has a dad bod early on, then there will be no future for us. ‘Nuff said.
Seriously though, putting on weight when you are married is expected, but it is the wife’s job to make sure that her husband still looks, feels and actually is healthy. Remember that how your man looks is a reflection of how you take care of him. If he looks sloppy, feels sloppy and IS sloppy, then you as the wife are SLOPPY.
When my man gets the guy 10 years down the married life, I’d drag his ass to the gym or make him go up the pole. It isn’t just because he is fat, but because I don’t want him unhealthy.
Any man must be able to bring himself to the gym or have his own exercise routine. If he can eat like a king, then he’d better look like one.
OH YEAH, we LOVE CHANNING TATUM and MATT BOMER too!