29 Jul The Power to Choose Your Interactions
JUAN SAYS: As human beings, it’s normal for us to want to appear nice. We were taught from a very young age to always respond in kindness to the people around us and to not be rude. And while there’s a certain merit to this, it’s of vital importance to be kind but we must also set boundaries for ourselves and you know what, it’s okay to do so. And at the same time, it’s also okay to understand that we can’t demand interaction from others around us as well. Sometimes interaction or the lack thereof, has nothing to do with us. Be kind but set boundaries, that’s another way to deflate and de-stress from life’s pressures.
“It’s a searing example of how the fear of being rude and impolite can put us in real danger. And sure, the character is exaggerated to the point of parody, but I recognized myself in that woman.
What time have I wasted in needing to be seen a certain way? What danger have I courted with my inability to say a direct no? What have I sacrificed on the altar of being too nice?”
“Eventually, I asked my husband Jonathan for his perspective. He said, fiercely, “You don’t owe anyone an interaction.”
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