03 Nov Are you doing what you’re meant to be doing?
By Monica Guerra
Stop whatever it is you’re currently busy with and take a breather. Look around you. Do you like what you see? Can you honestly say you’re happy where you are now? Is that the life you’re choosing?
If you answered YES to all these questions, then props for you. I guess you don’t need to continue reading. Go on, click on the next best link that grabs your attention.
But if at one point you answered NO, then stick around. You might find a nugget or two or not. If your curiosity gets piqued, much appreciated.
I’m no expert at this. Like you, I’ve also been trying to find out the answers to these questions. But of course, as much as I like to figure things out as soon as possible and start doing what I’m meant to be doing, reality kicks in and you have to start doing what you’re supposed to be doing.
Now don’t get confused with the two – doing what you’re meant to be doing AND doing what you’re supposed to be doing. They’re not the same. I believe doing what you’re supposed to do is somehow dictated by social expectations. It’s something that’s been set by people around us. On the other hand, doing what you’re meant to do means fulfilling your purpose, whatever that is.
You see, I have no idea as much as the next person. Real talk, I have not been around with one job for longer than two years. I’m always on the lookout for the next best thing; the next big adventure. No what Ifs, that’s my mantra. And I’ve managed to live like that. I’ve never stayed long enough to reap some good ol’ benefits like, say, a promotion or a salary increase. Don’t get me wrong, I think somehow I’ve pretty much established a good track record in my industry so far. Yeah, I’ve been job-hopping, but it’s always to a better position or a new role. I’ve met a lot of wonderful people, some I’ve managed to stay in touch with until now. I’ve been to different countries — worked, lived, and travelled. But despite all these, there’s this nagging feeling inside me, that feeling of being unsure if this is where I’m meant to be. Is this my reality? How am I supposed to know if I’m really doing what I’m meant to be doing?
In true Monica fashion, I googled. [How to know if you’re doing what you’re meant to be doing?] And man, Google did not disappoint. In fact, it offered a lot of life hacks, tips, how-tos just to help me figure out the answer to my million dollar question. I won’t be sharing here what I’ve read, you can just google it.
But out of all those recommendations, these are my takeway. This is just how I understood it. We may have different realizations, for sure.
You’ll know that you’re doing what you’re meant to be doing when…
- You see the ugly stuff, but you still choose to do it.
Even when you love your work, there will be things that you don’t want to do sometimes. That’s just how it is. That’s what makes you appreciate work more. That’s the balance. And I believe, if you’re still able to do good work despite all the ugly things you prefer not to see, then I guess you’re meant to be where you are.
- You don’t dread the hard stuff, instead you feel joyful doing it.
That feeling when you just know that this certain project or task is impossible to finish, yet you still have the heart to trudge forward and keep doing it, now that’s something. Yes, you may crave the challenge, but for some, it’s really just a matter of being open to possibilities. It may or may not be successful, but what’s important is that you took the step. You did something. You made the decision regardless if it’s worth it or not.
- You imagine yourself doing something different while you’re at it.
I always believe that humans are not meant to be put in a box. We’re not supposed to be doing just one thing all your lives. We’re complex human beings capable of experiencing different things. If you ever find yourself doing any work and still have that gusto to do other things outside work, then you might just be where you’re meant to be.
At the end of the day, it’s just really a matter of perspective. I’ve come to the conclusion that maybe it doesn’t matter if you’re able to figure things out or not, what’s important is that you live in the moement. You make the most out of every situation you’re in. Nothing’s certain anyway. Why bother figuring things out, when you can just throw your cares to the wind and live. Period.