26 May UPDATED: An Open Letter to EAT BULAGA from a Lesbian Mom
JUAN SAYS: We didn’t get to see the episode of Eat Bulaga this afternoon, nor do we have the time to watch noontime shows. Sure we know that there are segments in these shows that cater to the less fortunate, some segments cater to the interest of the LGBT group. We think that doing such, especially if it helps the plight of the concerned marginalized groups, is very noble, until we came across this Open Letter to Eat Bulaga, a facebook post of Cha Roque.
We have gone a long way accepting the LGBT community, and they have come a long way finding their place in Philippine society. As some of our LGBT friends have put it, the group is still not that widely embraced, but are rather “tolerated,” which we feel (as of yesterday’s discussion) was not true. However, these comments made by no less than our beloved Senator, proves our LGBT friends right. The gays and lesbians are still not fully accepted in our country, but rather merely tolerated and boxed to be what we (the straights, especially those in government and the religious sector) perceive them to be. Sigh.
An Open Letter to Eat Bulaga from a Lesbian Mom
Dear Eat Bulaga,
I am Cha, a single lesbian mom to an eleven year old daughter. I’ve seen the video of your segment (Dabarkads na beki, may asawa at tatlong anak) and I was appalled at how you handled the situation: how you suggested that this guy should go back to the closet so his kids won’t be discriminated is like saying that homosexuality is a sin. You made it appear like homosexuality is a disease and that he should keep it from his kids so as not to “infect” them with it. I feel sad for the guy for trusting you with what he is going through only to be treated that way.
It was an immature and uneducated move. Eat Bulaga is an institution, you have millions of followers spanning the whole Philippines. Needless to say, the personalities in your show are influential. You even have a Senator blatantly telling this guy to go back to the closet. Don’t you have gay or lesbian colleagues or staff in your show? What if the participant was a lesbian mom? Would you ask her to go back to the closet as well? Would you say the same to Aiza Seguerra if she was in the situation?
I am a lesbian mom and I chose not to hide in the closet, because I love my kid. I don’t think she deserves to be lied to and lying to her about who I am is the biggest betrayal. You don’t hide secrets from the people you love – more so your identity. It is shows like yours and opinions like those that was expressed in your show that encourages the bullying of LGBT people and their families. It is unfair that my child got bullied because of who I am but the way I raised her equipped with with the strength to face the world bravely. It is unfair that people (like you) will judge her not for who she is, not for how she excels in school, not for her craft but for who her mom is. This is why I chose to come out of the closet and fight for our rights.
We (LGBT people) do not want to hide. We want to be accepted, and acceptance is different from being tolerated. It is not okay that you are only okay with us if we keep quiet. It is not okay that you coexist with us just as long as we don’t complain about how we are treated.
You are not in the position to tell this guy “bumalik sa closet” or “bakit kasi nag-asa-asawa” or threaten to hurt him (jokingly). You are promoting a culture of hate. You are telling the world that corrective beating up is okay to make a gay guy become manly. You are telling the world that the only key to be accepted is to hide who you truly are.
We have the right to our choices. We know who we are and you don’t have the right to tell us to be otherwise.
Judging from all the things you said here, I say I better make my child stay away from your show. I feel more secure with my kid hanging out with my gay and lesbian friends. I am more secure that she will get valuable life lessons from them and not learn rubbish. This incident just proved once again how homosexuality is far more clean than Eat Bulaga and its hosts’ opinions will ever be.
Here are the links to the said episode: