08 Jul The Thing with Depression
JUAN SAYS: Today, the local media scene was shocked by the passing of young actress and daughter of character actors Nonie and and Shamaine, Julia due to suicide. (To read full story, click here.) In a country where crime rates are extremely high, someone passing is not all that shocking, but for someone so young and who showed no signs of depression, this came as a shock. What could cause a young girl so full of life to kill herself? Her parents asked for their privacy to be respected at this time but they were quick to say that Julia showed no signs and depression is like that. Yes, depression is dark but more often than not, people who are depressed mimic normal behavior and this is why we need to be involved. Ask questions and if you feel the need, ask how a person is doing. We never know what battle a person is fighting. Simple and sincere words would go a long way for those who battle depression. Understand that it is a condition and not a made-up dramatic episode which you can just snap out of, or think happy thoughts with. As it is always said, “the struggle is real.” In truth, nobody wants to wake up feeling very sad, not wanting to get out of bed, nor cry unceasingly for 24 hours straight. Depression is not exactly the lack of God in their lives, but surely, the presence of God would’ve helped a lot. It is a feeling of hopelessness sometimes gathered from people who surround her.
In our experience, some people may mean well when they criticize other people, but to people with depression it sends a different signal in their head. There too are triggers that can send someone to downward spiral, and the depressed will never feel that they are going that route until it is late in the day, and to some, very late. We have known people in their happiest and most intelligent selves, who have found themselves staring at a whole row of sleeping pills thinking will drinking these kill me? There have been others who could hear voices in their heads screaming “jump,” while riding in a truck. Again, depression is very real. It is not something that you can just make fun of, or turn into a joke. Because you will never know, one day, the joke may be on you.