24 Jun Our Favorite Lawyer’s LAST WORD on the Issue
JUAN SAYS: We have become fans of Atty. Bruce Rivera, in fact we would like to reach out to him and treat him for lunch or dinner and just talk about issues on LGBT or otherwise. We have to agree that indeed what this “fight” or “cause” is all about has become shallow. From the market to the palengke. Parang away lang ng magkakapitbahay. Since when did this community become that shallow? Read his last word on the issue and see why we are saying this.
From Bruce Rivera’s Facebook post:
I watched the Aquino and Abunda interview of Veejay and I realized that she was the Project Runway finalist (if my memory serves me right) whose talent is undeniable.
Let me lay-out some things at the onset. Was there damage? Yes, the feeling of being turned away is shameful and demeaning and I will not wish it on anyone. I had my share of being turned away in a breakfast buffet in a hotel in Manila because the hotel receptionist did not recognize me. She told me the slot was reserved for a school administrator and that I did not look old enough to fit the description. I intended to sue but the hotel was very apologetic. So I let it go. See, I was discriminated based on how I looked.
Should Veejay feel bad? Yes. She has earned her status as a priestess of fashion. And she may choose to vindicate or be the bigger person and let it go.
Should the LGBT react the way it has reacted? Honestly, I think there was an overeaction. The community wishes for equality and acceptance. Equality can be achieved when the law finally recognizes our existence and our rights be given. Acceptance is another thing. We do not just want tolerance, we need to be accepted. When you tolerate, you do not need to like the person. It is merely an acknowledgment of our existence. When we aim for acceptance, there is a positive act involved because when you accept, there must be a favorable feeling towards us.
What have we been doing so far? Sadly, and this is my personal opinion, not very much. It is because the LGBT suffers from a perception problem. People do not take us seriously and it is in situations like this that we lose sympathy from the very people who want to accept us. We fight bigotry with reason. We fight indifference with humanity. We fight, but we should choose our battles.
I am a huge fan of Miss Rocero for breaking boundaries plus the fact that she is Cebuano. But not all situations involving beautiful transgender people treated badly, should there be a reason to wage war. Why? Because instead of gaining friends, we are losing sympathy even from our own kind. Miss Floresca can fight her own wars and we should not put the stamp of LGBT war cry because it worsens how people perceive us.
Let me enumerate:
First, a California License stating you are a female will only be valid in the United States. If Miss Floresca was American, the Civil Code will force us to follow how her citizenship sees her (as a woman) because status is governed by the nationality of the person. But Veejay is still Filipino. And as Filipino, we will have to classify her as male since that was the sex assigned to her by birth. Sad but true. Miss Rocero, being American can insist she is a woman, but Miss Floresca cannot.
Second, at magtaTagalog ako para maintindihan ng lahat, yung mga pinaglalaban natin, napaka-shallow. Karamihan ng Pilipino, nagugutom, salat sa buhay at pagod sa pagbabanat sa buto. Tapos maririnig nila na galit na galit tayo kasi may isang kakosa natin na hindi pinapasok sa mamahaling club. Naman!!! Maghanap tayo ng situation na yung isang beki ay tinanggal sa trabaho, hindi tinanggap sa trabaho kahit qualified, hindi binentahan ng gamot or di kaya binugbog dahil bakla. Then the common man can relate and sympathize. But when our battle cry is …boo hoo, hindi kami pinapasok sa bar, hindi kami tao kasi hindi kami pinayagang maging masaya at magparty. Sa isang ordinaryong Pilipino na ung isang buwang sweldo ay katumbas ng gagatusin ng isang beki sa isang gabi ng pagpaparty…ang sasabihin niya…Tang-ina! Hindi lang kayo napapasok, hindi na tao agad. Eh kami nga walang makain.
I am not saying we stop fighting for equality and acceptance. What I am trying to tell you and I am risking my life and limb for being too outspoken about this is:
Hindi tayo tira lang ng tira. Away lang ng away. Patulan lahat at discrimination agad. Kasi sa totoo lang, pati babae at lalake biktima din ng discrimination. Siguradong mas madaming babae at lalake ang hindi pinapasok sa club na yan kesa sa beki. Mas madaming straight ang hindi nakapasok sa mga tindahang napasukan natin dahil wala silang pera, hindi nakakain ng kinakain natin dahil salat sila sa buhay. Naging masyado tayong maselan. Nagiging paandar at pag-iinarte na. Let us be relevant. Let our advocacy have essence. Hindi yung parade lang tayo ng parade, magsponsor ng inuman at naka-itim or puti or pink ang lahat ng aattend at awayin sa social media ang lahat ng galit sa atin.
Because the only way to be accepted, is when people will see our similarities rather than our differences.
Sorry for the rant. But I actually have been keeping it inside me for the longest time.